Life starts at 40: Pat Fehlman’s secret to confidence at 70

Pat Fehlman, 70, of Plain Township, and her husband, John, just celebrated their 50th anniversary in December. “The trick is to find the right person, and I’m very fortunate. I found him.”

Pat Fehlman, 70, of Plain Township, and her husband, John, just celebrated their 50th anniversary in December. “The trick is to find the right person, and I’m very fortunate. I found him.”

Q: A half-century together is an accomplishment, don’t you think?

A: Love is a decision. Obviously, there are times in everybody’s life that you might not feel the love the way you did before. You have to make a decision. Love is a commitment. John and I laugh a lot. We have a lot of fun. We enjoy each other’s company. He’s my best friend. We just like each other.

Q: And that helps keep you happy?

A: I’m basically a very happy person. A lot of it has to do with a very personal and deep faith. Every day God lets me have is a gift. None of us knows how many we have. So I stay very active and involved in the community.

Q: Do you do anything to keep in good health?

A: John and I both work out at Aultman North six mornings a week. It’s interesting … women’s magazines will do articles on how to stay healthy and beautiful into your 30s, 40s and 50s. Very few take it to your 60s, and I’ve never seen one talk about being beautiful in your 70s. It’s almost as if our society thinks that at that age life is over, and at 70 women no longer care about what they look like. That couldn’t be farther from the truth. I think women in their 70s and beyond can look beautiful.

Q: What are your secrets to being confident and achieving success?

A: The secret to confidence is knowledge, and I generally try to learn something every day. And the secret to success is finding something you love to do. I was in PR and marketing, and I had a passion for it. I still do. There’s a saying, and I don’t remember who said it, that if you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life. I believe that.