Life starts at 40: Becky Bors secret to happiness at 60

Becky Bors of Canton was just finishing up her work at Arcadia Grille when she spoke of what she has learned in 60 years of life—including a growing understanding of being confident and content with your age.

Becky Bors of Canton was just finishing up her work at Arcadia Grille when she spoke of what she has learned in 60 years of life—including a growing understanding of being confident and content with your age.

“I think at some point you have to accept who you are and say to people, ‘Accept me as I am,’ and I think that’s where the confidence comes.”

Q: You sound like a happy person; how do you manage that?

A: I try to be a positive-type person. I don’t focus on bad things. My husband says I don’t care. It’s not that I don’t care about things, it’s just that I don’t want to spend energy—negative energy—on something if I can’t change it. When something happens, you discuss it and let it go. Don’t dwell on it.

Q: What was it like raising your family?

A: If you have a family and your kids grow up to be respectful and dependable, you are a success. Through the years, because of the way we worked and the family we had, my husband and I focused on the kids. We really did get lost in that mix a little. We vacationed, which allowed us to be with each other. But now we’ve reached the empty nest stage, and we’re learning how to reengage, how to date again, because we have the time.

Q: Is there a secret to long life?

A: Live in the moment. You can’t carry the burden of yesterday, and you can’t worry about tomorrow. You can think about it. You can prepare. But, more important, you’ve got to focus on what you are doing today, and by that I mean at that exact moment. … Life is complicated enough and people try to make it even more complicated than it has to be.

Q: So, live life to the fullest?

A: My whole thing is live life in moderation. You shouldn’t work too much. You shouldn’t play too much. You shouldn’t eat too much. And you shouldn’t drink too much. The only thing you can’t do too much is laugh and be happy. And dance. You can’t dance too much either.