A majority of others—56 percent—will at the very least have the social media status updated within a day of the wedding.
These are results of David’s Bridal “What’s on Brides’ Minds” survey, which seems to indicate a couple of schools of thought concerning social media and wedding ceremonies. Some respondents were part of the “plugged-in proponents,” the survey results said. Other brides were “social media nuptial naysayers.”
Not to make Shakespeare sound like a techno-geek, but, to post or not to post, that is the question.
THERE ARE RULES
For the most part, the answer to questions about the posting of weddings on social media is yes. According to the survey, only 14 percent of brides would place a total ban on social media posting. But, a far larger percentage—44 percent—believe in digital rules for such social media reports.
“Brides are becoming more insistent on controlling the messaging of their nuptials,” said a survey report, “by setting guidelines of how public the wedding will be on the Internet.”
That having been said, more than a third of brides—36 percent—thought live streaming of their wedding, or Skype-ing it, would be wonderful for guests who couldn’t make the ceremony.
Some of the other survey findings concerning posting things about weddings on social media indicate that 58 percent of brides believe that the bride and groom should be the first to post a photo of their wedding. This would eliminate the possibility that the first social media posting would be a picture taken by a parent, which might include the caption, “It’s done! Next up, photos of the grandchildren!”
In fact, 22 percent of the brides believe that the newly-married couple should be the only ones to post photos of their wedding. Call it quality control.
Almost a third, 32 percent, of brides say that absolutely no videos of their ceremonies be posted to YouTube. Apparently, they want the ability to disavow any knowledge of inadvertent falls or forgetfulness. If they aren’t viral, the embarrassing incidents never happened.
Finally, about one quarter of the brides who responded, 26 percent, said in the survey that tweets referring to their weddings should include their “specially-created hashtag.” The hashtag “#BestWeddingEver,” was used in the survey report as an example.
ABOUT THE DRESS
The most important survey result, however, concerned the brides’ wedding dresses. The short answer is “don’t.”
Oh, brides see nothing wrong with using Facebook pages and websites to search for wedding gowns. And, there seems to be nothing wrong with using smartphones to text photos of potential wedding dresses to friends who are absent during the shopping trip—to get those special friends’ opinions and advice.
But, 62 percent of brides—in the survey world, that’s a lot—said they believe bridesmaids should not post photos of a bride in her wedding dress before the garments and their wearers go through a ceremony making the union official.
It’s bad luck, after all, for the grooms to see the brides in their dresses before the ceremony, even if only by means of social media. And that could happen easily because, I repeat, all grooms smart enough to get married will be on Facebook during those moments before they say “I do,” changing their relationship status to “Taken.”