In an interview with Match.com, Phineas Mollod and Jason Tesauro, co-authors of the books “The Modern Gentleman” and “The Modern Lover: A Playbook for Suitors, Spouses, and Ringless Carousers,” shared these tips:
• Avoid talking too much about yourself and particularly about work. The best first-date topics are leisure activities such as hobbies, travel, fitness, sports, etc.
• Don’t be afraid to exhibit old-school manners.
• Lunch can be an ideal first date because there’s usually a time limit involved; you’re usually dressed in work attire; and you tend to be more relaxed.
According to the School of Manners and Common Sense, the basic rules for a first date are the same for men and women:
• Don’t curse.
• Don’t get drunk.
• Don’t ask for a date without giving the other person adequate advance notice.
• Don’t be a braggart.
• Have an alternative plan for any date.
• Treat the other person with courtesy and respect, even if you’re communicating online.
• Be on time.
• Don’t lie. About anything.
• Don’t gossip.
• Once your invitation has been accepted, never stand up your date.
• Don’t abandon your date.
• Men, chivalry still works. Hold open doors for the woman, and see her to her door when the date ends.
• Women, allow your date to be chivalrous, but don’t expect or demand it.
• Avoid expressing strong opinions. Keep any humor clean.
• If you’re a smoker, ask before you light up.
Megan McLahan of Primer, an online magazine for post-college young men, offers this advice for modern dating:
• Don’t “high-five” or “fist-bump” your date.
• Don’t break it off with someone via text message.
• What a person who has been drinking says while on a date is not necessarily the truth. Sometimes, it’s just the alcohol talking.
• Don’t express your feelings by way of a phone text or a social media site.
• A lack of response to a text does not mean automatic rejection. Technology isn’t infallible, and people lead very busy lives.