How they met:
The couple met at their medium-size church, where they interacted through the music ministry and Sunday school class. Terry moved to Michigan after his first marriage ended but would travel to visit his children on the weekends. He and Brenda continued to run into each other, and, after two years, they began dating. Both ended up with job opportunities in Los Angeles, so they planned a wedding in a week and a half, got married and relocated to California.
What’s the best part about being married?
Terry: The best part of being married, for me, is the fact that I get to share every part of my life with my best friend. That goes for the good times as well as the bad. There’s no one that knows me any better than Brenda. There’s no one that supports me any more than her, and she isn’t afraid to tell me when I’m wrong and cheer me on when I’m right.
Brenda: He took the words right out of my mouth. He stole my answer.
Terry: See? I told you she wasn’t afraid to tell me when I’m wrong!
How has your marriage evolved over the years?
Terry: For me, the way our marriage has evolved over the years has been through our problem-solving. Early on it was attacking the problem individually. She would have her response and so would I, and usually they were different approaches. Over the years, we learned the most effective response to a situation was attacking it together, with a common approach.
Brenda: I agree, we have learned each other’s strengths and weaknesses, and that we can lean on each other. I’m the practical, logical one. He is more creative. We’ve learned to depend on and embrace our differences. Our faith has deepened as a family, and that helps the way we view situations.
What have you learned?
Terry: We’ve learned a lot of life lessons along the way. One of the most important is to always have each other’s back no matter what. … And taking that one step further, always support each other. Like I said earlier, she is my biggest cheerleader and I am hers. We’ve also learned the importance of family. No one will be on your side like family.
What would be your advice to newly married couples?
Both: The advice we would give to young married couples is to build your marriage on faith. Faith in God and faith in each other. Worship together and get to know each other. Celebrate your victories and successes and learn from your failures.