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Letter from the Editor: January 2016

It’s that time of year again, when everyone is excited about New Year’s resolutions, myself included. Unlike the usual weight loss, fitness and health resolutions that most people make when the ball drops, I’m making resolutions to live in the moment.

This may sound like a rather easy resolution, but for me, it’s going to be difficult. I tend to find myself fumbling for my phone at any chance I get. If there’s a lull in conversation or I show up early to an event, I grab my phone at the first opportunity.

I scroll through Facebook, check my email or flip through new photos on Instagram. It’s a crutch for awkward situations, and I know I’m not the only one who uses her phone to cope with the awkwardness.

I see it everywhere I go. When out at dinner or shopping, I see people alone, staring at their phones. I always wonder why they don’t just look up and notice what’s happening around them. And then I realize that I do the same thing. I know I do it, and I know how sad it looks to people around me.

I’ve even gone as far as downloading an app to see how often I check my phone. After the embarrassment of seeing how often I tip-tap on my phone, I quickly deleted the app.

It’s not just in awkward situations that I grab for my phone. I’ll be grabbing a bite with my man or out for coffee with a friend, and I’ll instinctively grab my phone to get an Instagram-worthy photo of my dinner or latte.

But this year will be different, I promise. My plan is to leave my phone in my purse when I leave the house. Even if I order the most exquisite entree at dinner or my latte has the perfect amount of whipped cream and cinnamon, I’ll try to resist the urge to snap a pic and post it online.

I know it will take awhile to break old habits, but if I’m determined, I think I can make it. I want to live in the moment rather than watch videos of something I could have witnessed in real life. So often, I see people snapping so many pictures of their significant others and children that I wonder if they ever see each other face to face.

I don’t want to be that person. That’s not to say I’ll stop taking pictures. That will never happen, but I’ll be more selective when I do. I’ll keep my phone hidden when I’m out in public. But if I’m at home and I make the perfect latte, you bet I’ll snap a pic of that.

Until next month,
Kelsey Reinhart, editor